WHEN IT CAME TO THE CHOICE OF A JOB AND A LIFE PARTNER FOR A DAUGHTER-ASHOK SHARMA*
(* An Alumnus of SCD Govt. College Ludhiana speaks bold about her daughter)
Today is 45th birth day of my eldest daughter, Aarti Sharma & as I sit all alone on the terrace of our house,I am led by the rush of thoughts to write few lines about her.
To the parents, their children are special & Aarti is special in more than one way. Right from her childhood days, she has displayed her own way of thinking & taking decisions.
Being a bit conservative parent, I had my own way of bringing up a girl child in the Indian traditions but today when i look at her eventual growth, she has given me few lessons.
Right from her years in Norway( when she was just 9 years of age) , she made her way to British school & thereafter Norwegian school & surprised us by picking up the native language & English so fast & inspite of many odds , she assimilated the western way of living & blended it so well with Indian ethos.
On her return to India in 1987, she chose to join Punjab university contrary to my advice did well in MA (English) . At every step , she wanted to have her way . She chose a night shift it job in Chandigarh, & learnt to drive to reach her destination to our anxiety but again learnt the tricks of trade. I wanted her to join teaching job but she preferred it field & did well both in India & abroad (England & Singapore).
When it came to the choice of a life partner, she defied us and married a boy of her own choice & that too out of caste & through internet & look, she is leading a wonderful life with her hubby in Singapore.
She is a wonderful social being & has lot of good friends belonging to many nationalities.
She is every inch a rebel & a woman of substance & gradually I have come to terms with her style of thinking & living. There is lot more to write but I restrict myself. I have learnt a lot from her.
I Wish Her All Well In Her Life.
Ashok Sharma*
He is an Alumnus of SCD.GOVT.COLLEGE,LUDHIANA-INDIA did hisere Post Graduation in English in Mid-1960s
He also studied at UNIVERSITY OF OSLO.
He went to Govt. Senior Secondary School Phillaur-India
– A Former Associate Professor & Head Dept. Of English At DAV College, Chandigarh-India.
Note : Typographical mistakes, if any, are of Web Mangers and not of Blogger.
8 comments
Superb
Both are right in their own way and the lesson to we parents is that we must give space to the children in selecting their way of leading their life which the blogger did.
A good child (whether a son or a daughter)
gives immense pleasure and satisfaction to his/her parents.Above all children shouldn’t do anything which would make the parents hang their heads in shame and remorse.
Sir,Your considered comments are always valuable.
All parents always pray for wellbeing and happiness of their children.
Society has very usefully learnt the value of two way communication between the kids and their parents .
Let the family ties be stronger this way.
The conservative shackles to which the Indian society is chained, sometimes become repressive. Shri Sharma’s story is a refreshing breath of fresh air, and it warms us that despite his initial reservations, he stood besides his daughter and supported her so called rebellious decisions. She ultimately proved herself. May the Almighty continue to bless her always.
Great to see the write-up being published on the blog! Really amazing story of the duo father and daughter…
A nice write up on father daughter relationship sir
BEST EXAMPLE OF MOVING WITH THE TIME AND NARROWING DOWN SO CALLED GENERATION GAP.
PARENTS HAVE TO GIVE NECESSARY SPACE TO THE CHILDREN WHERE THEY CAN HONE THEIR SKILLS AND POTENTIAL TO THE OPTIMUM WHICH WILL BRING OUT THE BEST IN THEM AND MAKE THEIR PARENTS PROUD.